Jealousy and Envy Jasmin E. Cruz II – 3 BSE English
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Jealousy mental uneasiness from suspicion or fea r of rivalry, unfaithfulness, etc., as in love or aims. vigilance in maintaining or guarding som ething.
• Jealousy happens when a person feels that a relationship that is of importance is threatened by someone else outside of the relationship, be it romantic, platonic, friendship, parent-child, sibling etc. • Jealousy can also occur in the context of competitive situations, such as the workplace or education. Jealousy
Sibling Rivalry Siblings may compare their accomplishments with one another, vie for the majority of their parents’ affection, and compete to play with the same toy. Types of Jealousy
Workplace Jealousy Work jealousy arises between colleagues vying for the same type of position. He may feel especially jealous if he felt that he worked more diligently to earn accolades that were only awarded to the other person. Types of Jealousy
Romantic Jealousy Romantic jealousy is common because strong emotional bonds leave partners open to potential extreme heartbreak. Even the sight of an outlying attractive person may cause a normally secure partner to be concerned that the other will “upgrade” to a better model. Types of Jealousy
Platonic Jealousy Jealousy arises in friendships due to the same insecurities found in other relationships: feelings of comparison a fear of being replaced feelings of competition. Types of Jealousy
Distrust Unfair Comparisons Separation Anxiety Powerlessness Acts of Infidelity Fear Lack of self confidence Causes of Jealousy
• Controlling Behavior • Constant Communication • Avoidance • The Cold Shoulder • Competitive • Odd Behavior Behavior • Confrontation Signs of Jealousy
o Fully experience the feeling. o Love yourself. o Stop comparing. o Find what is threatening you. o Change any false beliefs that might be fueling your jealousy. o Learn from your jealousy. o Trust yourself. Overcoming Jealousy
Envy A feeling of discontent and resentment aroused by and in conjunction with desire for the possessions or qualities of another. Envy is pain at the good fortune of others. (Aristotle, Rhetoric, Bk II, Chapter 10)
Envy Envy is that passion which views with malignant dislike the superiority of those who are really entitled to all the superiority they possess. (Adam Smith, The Theory of Moral Sentiments, p. 244)
Causes of Envy Dissatisfaction Comparison to others. Pride Seeking significance/Low self-esteem Desire for worldly gain. Seeking money, appearance, status, achievements, or talents that are of only temporary value.
Signs of Envy Downplaying success Possessiveness Insults Talks your name with others One-up
Overcoming Envy • Be honest. • Develop a lifestyle of gratitude. • Avoid activities that encourage comparison. • Ask yourself why. • Take a step back. • Grow. • Stop judging yourself so harshly
Dealing with envious person • Understand his/her perspective. • Speak to him/her. • Keep an eye out • Reality Check
Is Jealousy and Envy different?
Difference between ENVY AND JEALOUSY Envy • JEALOUSY o A person being envious of o Jealousy is about more than two another. people and involves the preservation of special o Envy occurs when you friendships because of the covet something that involvement of others. another person has or is o Jealousy manifests when you striving to obtain. fear the loss of someone or o Envy generally brings something already in your life. strong emotional reactions o Jealousy can very often bring related to anger and deceit. about paranoia, feelings of o I envy her possessions or insecurity and fear. situation. o I am jealous that you like her over me.
• It is possible to experience both jealousy and envy at the same time. • For example: You could be jealous of the attention your boyfriend is getting from a female who you envy for her physical qualities.
• The philosopher John Rawls distinguishes between jealousy and envy on the grounds that jealousy involves the wish to keep what one has and envy the wish to get what one does not have.